The Value of a Virgin

Leviticus 21:13
“And he shall take a wife in her virginity”.

The value of the virgin in our society has been lost. Where once virgins were respected and highly esteemed they are now looked at as common day failures in the area of sex and relationships. Most people do not honor virgins but rather taunt them or tease them for being one. We ask them degrading questions like what’s wrong with you. Why are you still a virgin? Are you gay?

Virgins are often teased for the virginity that God requires them to have until marriage. Sadly, this type of ridicule often comes from close family members and close friends. The virgin will often act out sexually just to relieve the pressure of the naysayers. Are world has become brain washed with sexuality. We have allowed sex to enter our homes, jobs, and personal lives through media, music and fashion. We have made sex icons are role models and inspire to be like them daily. We want to wear our hair like them dress like them and often act out the sexual behaviors that they display on stages for the whole world to see for example twerking.

Unfortunately, more and more children each year are being exposed to sex at earlier ages. Their virginity has already been snatched from them mentally before they can physically act it out. Sex has been sown into them through their senses which are the eye gates, ear gates, and even physical touch. Their imaginations have been heightened with false fantasies opening up the door to the spirit of sensuality and perversion. As they begin to visualize themselves acting out sexually then they begin looking for people who can bring their fantasies to reality causing them to lose their virginity.

Needless to say our society is turning our children’s minds out with sex before they even have sex. Society set’s them up for sexual failure in the long run. Might I say it’s ok to be a 40 year old virgin!

Another trick of the enemy I have found to be so gross and corrupt is tricking young girls and boys into thinking if they sleep with one another they are still a virgins. However, they might physically be but they have just defiled themselves and become impure.

Lastly, masturbation has become another deceptive trick in keeping ones virginity. I once had somebody tell me this was the way as long as I wasn’t having sex. What a lie from the enemy. At the end of the day the enemy wants to bring a hedge between us and God. And, you will still want to have sexual intercourse with someone other than yourself. A person can only live this lie for so long. Eventually, the individual will have sex and still be in the web of masturbation so now the individual is conflicted with both acts.

God’s word still stands and he still values and honors virgins. The virgin is pure in her sexuality. She is still sanctified and set-apart.
I encourage all of my young people to honor your body. You only get one virginity once it’s gone it is lost forever. If you know someone who is a virgin encourage them to keep their virginity until marriage.

Virgins are Priceless!


AskTpj-Vault Relationships


Vault Relationships
No sibling is perfect. Neither are your friends. The value of covenant relationships has depreciated tremendously. Relationships are not valued as they should be. Often times we focus on offenses and flaws the other party has.
The most important factor to your relationship with anyone is being Holy Spirit led. Am I my sister’s keeper? Absolutely. Are boundaries necessary? Absolutely. It is your duty as a covenant sister to be vulnerable, honest, and protective.
Know your role. It’s easy to step out of bounds if the relationship has not been defined. I know we can be some emotional creatures! Often times our relationships are filled with cattiness, gossip, and other harmful tactics meant to divide us. But that does not have to be so! There are two types of sisters you have: a vault & a trash can.
A vault is a secured place built within, where we store our valuables. We are careful to put our most important information, possessions, and valuables there. It also protects one from unauthorized use with a tightly closed door and more importantly an intricate lock code system. A vault sister is that safe place. Not only can she be a shoulder to lean on and an ear to listen, she will pray with you. She prays for you. She may even help you carry a burden. But do not get too comfortable with her. Becoming so familiar may cause you to devalue her and your relationship. You may get so common with her that you began to dump all of your baggage and trash into her.
The trash can holds unimportant, broken, invaluable items. These items have depreciated or have began to decompose. When you treat a covenant sister like a trash can, you fill her ears with meaningless words, eat up her time, and distract her from her purpose.
Before you step into a relationship, be objective. A friendship or covenant relationship should not be taken lightly. She may seem fun now, but I promise you seasons do change. And there is nothing wrong with change, but please know that the commitment and work still remains.
She will get on your nerves. She will fall and need your prayers. She will talk too much. She will make mistakes. She will get offended. She will request apologies. She will need your grace. She will need your mercy. She will stumble and need your correction. She will get dull and need your sharpening. She will earn your trust. She will require forgiveness. She will need your assistance to reach her destiny. And you probably thought friendships were all about fun, shopping, or talking about your favorite television show. HA! Covenants require getting your hands dirty. You don’t get to walk away when things get tough.
Love covers a multitude of sins. It’s important to cover your sister, not expose her.
Are you a vault or a trash can? Can you be trusted? Can God trust you with His daughter? Will you protect her vulnerability? Will you talk about her with others? A good rule of thumb that will save many relationships is, if it’s not your story to tell, don’t tell it. You don’t need another person on your level to pray with you about it.
As a covenant girl, each sister should be a vault. Treat her as such. Value her time as you would value someone important. Value the God in her. Never forget she is human just like you. Value her concerns, prayers, insecurities, and secrets just as you would your own.
                                                                                                                   -Ask TPJ

Guarding Your Heart 1

Blog from 2013  heart 1Updated 4/29/2014

This year God has really been dealing with me about the heart. I have come to realize that our hearts play such a huge role in our everyday lives. It was out of my own experiences, past hurts, past relationships and failures that made me realize that I had some heart issues. I was snappy, angry, mad, hurt, unhappy and not whole. I’m not speaking of the natural heart but of the spiritual heart our mind, will, emotions and intellect. The bible state that out of our hearts flows the issues of life. Our hearts is our source of life.

However, if you have no word in your life to combat those issues you will either find yourself an emotional wreck, no faith, depressed, feeling like God doesn’t love you, in a state of insecurity and the list goes on according to the person. The problem is we cannot afford to have heart issues or be spiritually sick because when we do it affects how we hear from God it also affects spiritual vision. It brings confusion and we have a hard time deciphering what God is spiritually trying to communicate to us. It becomes a mind battle if you can’t clearly hear from God then how will you know what direction you should be going in. Unfortunately, when most people can’t make a God decision they make a flesh decision. A Flesh decision will always take you down a bumpy, rocky, long path of frustration. We often make permanent decisions for a temporary situation.

When it comes to our hearts we need to be like detectives. We need to search and discover what’s lying hidden in our hearts then begin to flush out those things that our not of God. The bible states that we should guard our hearts with all diligence (Proverbs 4:23-27). Secondly, once we have flushed out those areas we need to be careful not to allow people or worldly indignations to re-enter our hearts. At some point we must begin to detect and reject-(Dr.Charisse Gibert).

Anything that is not of God or from God will never be good for us. You may be thinking well how do I detect? You detect by meditating, reading, and studying Gods word. By doing this you begin to learn God’s truth and what he has to say about your life, marriage, family, jobs, and relationships. So when something is contrary to God’s word then you know that it’s is a lie and you won’t allow it to enter into your heart. For some the start of this process may not be easy. I have found in my life that I had to separate myself from some relationships (ungodly soul ties), friends, and even a job at one point. I say whatever it is that may cause spiritual congestive heart failure rid yourself of it because it’s not worth You in the long run. When you guard your heart you guard your life. Work hard to get your heart in order and allow the healing process to begin.

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Broken Roads

roads     Dream I had on Wednesday, April 9th 2014

In this dream, I saw broken and crumbled roads that people were traveling down. Some were driving and some were walking. Some of the broken roads were still connected to this big main road but only by a long thin edge. So you could get to the main road but you would be taking a risk of falling.

So as I looked out there was a lady in front of me trying to shimmy her way across the long thin edge of a road to get to the main road (she was trying to walk the edge on her own). As I was driving I came to a stop because the road was broken however, while watching the lady in front of me I got out and said Lord what am I going to do I can go no further on this road and I’m not going to try and walk the edge. As soon as I said that a man behind me said let me help you down but you must leave the car behind (he didn’t ask if I wanted help he said let me help you leaving me no choice)

I said ok, when he put me down I was at his feet. I also realize where he put me down at was a total solid foundation and nothing was broken. When I looked to thank him I looked and saw the tallest angel I had ever seen. I had never seen anything so tall and full of Joy. When he first asked me if I needed help he looked as if he were my size. The man also seemed as if he took pleasure in helping me.

Then it was if I could see out into the vastness of things and when I looked I saw two more angels just like him. One was really far back and there was another way out to the side and they were just working helping people get off those broken roads.

I got the impression in the dream that these angels were really working hard to help people who would take the help. When I woke up out the dream it did not register with me until about 5 minutes later and when it hit me I begin to praise God in my bed because I knew the Lord had showed me angels who were on assignment to help his people. Afterwards I got in prayer and I believe the Lord told me these things below.

  • Those who have been on the wrong roads God is automatically going to come in and give them help as long as they are willing to leave the things that have left them bound behind on those roads.
  • Gods is automatically sending help in this season just receive it.
  • God is putting and establishing his people on new solid  foundations.
  • God is dispatching new angles into the lives of believers.

I pray this word will encourage your spirits on today and renew your hope!

Covenant Girls

LogoColorTextBelow About two weeks ago I had several of you inbox me about Covenant Girls. In response to you I said I would write a post about myself and covenant Girls. Sorry, I’m a week late a lot of stuff going on!

I started Covenant Girls because God has been birthing in me for some time now a heart for helping women who deal with sexual addictions, abusive relationships, and self-esteem and character issues from those relationships. From a biblical stand point of course this would be sexual immorality, sexual sins, and sexual vices.

Now of course you may be saying in your head there are so many other ministries like this one who have the same endeavor and I say to that great! I’m glad we do because one person can’t reach the whole world it takes more than one. There are so many hurting people out there and God’s desire is for everyone to be reached and know his Gospel, his truth, his love, his heart, his faith, and his life changing anointing.

It took me a while (years) to step out because stepping out would be sharing my past and being totally uninhibited about it so that someone else’s life could be changed. Then there were those other thoughts (doubt, fear) that the enemy likes to throw in there like, would people really want to hear what I have to say? Who am I? Nobody! Could God really use me to help others? I guess I had the Gideon complex.

Nevertheless, here I am writing to you as someone who is open to share pretty much everything so don’t judge me but love me because I am not afraid of my testimony. I overcome the more I tell it and I get a deeper revelation about my purpose each time that God allows me to share it. I know for a fact I went through what I went through for a purpose, for such a time as this! So, here I am unashamed when the enemy tried to bring so much shame! Here I am totally delivered when I thought I was an impossible case. Here I am forgiving when I thought I could never forgive all the men who hurt me starting with my farther. Here I am not alone when I dealt with a spirit of loneliness for so many years and so many more Here I Am’s…  because God is so Good and faithful I live to tell my story when I should be dead. He will take a filthy rag and scrub it, wash it, dip it, dry back off and wash and clean some more until it’s totally clean. Then he will pick up another rag in your life and repeat that same cycle! He never stops working on us.

With that being said all of my Covenant Girls are a work in progress. Instead of bucking the process we will learn to enjoy through hope, faith, and love. Knowing in the deep part of us that even though it may be painful right now I can get joy out of it because it won’t be like this always and my brighter day is on its way.  I have personally learned that with processes the quicker you submit, commit and surrender to God’s plan the time of change is often short. It’s when you buck up at the process with complaining, disobedience, doing it your way that it takes longer. Remember, you’re not hindering God but only yourself.  For about 16 years I bucked the process in and out back and forth etc… Then the one time I got serious even though he was chiseling I was married within a year to the right person.  However, I had to do it my way. Married at twenty-one, adulterous lifestyle, separated from him for about 4 years several boyfriends and eventually a weed headed alcoholic the list goes on and you will learn more of my story as we go along. But I just had to take the hard road.

My heart for young women is that you don’t have to take the hard low road. That does not have to be your story. It is not God’s plan for everyone to have a hard life. Yes, you will have troubles, test and trials, that’s just bible. Those trials come to perfect us, build character, and do us better in the latter end. But don’t add to it!  I want to see women especially my young daughters live the Zoe life that God has for them.  I had Girlfriends that did it right! Today, they are still living the God kind of life it can be done. (Side note: Oh yeah I grew up in church mama shouted with me in her belly the whole nine months) I knew better but I just had to do things my own way like most of us.

I named this ministry Covenant Girls for several reasons.  Just off the top of my head without researching scripture. The word Covenant for me meant God’s agreement and promises for me.  I also thought about Abraham and how long he waited for his promise. I then begin to think of my waiting time. Then I thought about all the times when I was by myself and I had no friends or anyone to get in agreement with me or to stand by me in my hardest times of life.  I said to myself I wish I had, had some Covenant sister’s Promised sister’s to stand by me and be real with me and pray for me and uplift me without judging and going back telling my issues to leaders and other people a Covenant sister won’t do that unless it’s a life threating situation but that’s different. Covenant sisters/girls don’t give opinions but only what God is saying.

Covenant Girl’s is about true sisterhood amongst women without the judgment factor or snooty nose factor being involved. Secondly, I believe that with the name Covenant Girls that God would be in Covenant with us through each and every journey we embark on. That he would make Covenant with the women who came to this ministry for help and out of our obedience to him that he would bless and honor his Covenant. Don’t you just love Jesus! I know I do! Well that’s it for now!

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Thanks For Reading- Marie Parker Griffin

Scripture References:


Psalms 105:8 He remembers his covenant forever, the word that he commanded, for a thousand generations,

Psalms 89:34 I will not violate my covenant or alter the word that went forth from my lips.

Sexual Immorality

1Thessolonians 4:3-5 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor,  not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God;


Isaiah 43:18-19 Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.

Titus 3:3-7 For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, led astray, slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in malice and envy, hated by others and hating one another. But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out on us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that being justified by his grace we might become heirs according to the hope of eternal life.

Gideon Please Read

Judges Chapter 6 & 7  


Revelations 12:11 And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives to the death.

Psalms 119:45-47 And I shall walk in a wide place, for I have sought your precepts.  I will also speak of your testimonies before kings and shall not be put to shame,  for I find my delight in your commandments, which I love.

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